Kristen Carder
An empowering self-coaching guide to help ADHDers understand, repair, and build healthy relationships—with friends, romantic partners, family, and at work—from ADHD coach Kristen Carder, host of the I Have ADHD podcast and founder of FOCUSED
"A compassionate, practical guide for navigating ADHD in all kinds of relationships—from family to friendship to work.” —Adam Grant, #1 New York Times–bestselling author of Vibe and Think Again
When you have a neurodivergent brain, it can be hard to connect with the people closest to you.
There are rules that everyone else seems to know and play by that don’t come easily to you. Instead of feeling secure and grounded, you move through your relationships feeling like you’re always in trouble.
This book provides a solution. In You’re Not in Trouble, Kristen Carder explores how ADHD can shape the five most prominent relationship structures: friendships, work relationships, romantic partnerships, parent-child relationships, and family-of-origin relationships.
Armed with this insight, you can begin to build relationships that feel safe, steady, and genuinely connected. You will have practical tools to repair what has been strained, step out of dysfunction, and show up with clarity and self-trust in the relationships that matter most. You’ll learn how to:
- Regulate your emotions,
- Prioritize your relationships,
- Understand and communicate your needs,
- Understand rejection sensitivity and how to soothe it, and
- Cultivate connection with yourself and others.
This is a gentle journey into connection, without the tired neurotypical advice that never quite fits your ADHD brain. Instead, Kristen guides you through a trauma-informed framework for recognizing safety, repairing rupture, setting boundaries, and being good enough in the relationships that shape your life.
