Sean Hotchkiss

A brutally honest confessional that reckons with the darkest parts of the male psyche and provides a framework for men to heal themselves and their relationships.

When Sean Hotchkiss watched his father spiral after his second divorce and jump off a thirty-six-story bridge, the cause of his suicide to Sean, even at twenty-two, was clear: his father couldn’t live without a woman. And following his father’s death, Sean vowed to never find himself in the same position. He’d never be alone. Women became Sean’s compass. They were the way he clocked if he was doing okay in the world: if women liked him, desired him, wanted to sleep with him, all was well. And he dated and slept with as many women as possible in the coming years, running away from himself and his pain. Then, in 2015, he hit rock bottom after another breakup. Like his father before him, he became depressed and finally, suicidal. It was the beginning of a decade-long odyssey towards healing.

A candid and vulnerable memoir, Hating Women is a book for men who are disappointed by dating or by relationships that stagnate and sour; men who are struggling to confront their demons and with the pain they’ve caused the women in their lives. By detailing the connection between his toxic experiences with women and suppressed rage, Hotchkiss offers a roadmap out. What begins as confession becomes initiation: a reckoning that each man must go through to reclaim a capacity for vulnerability and live a life grounded in core values, including loving and honoring the women in his life.